Morning Sex for Good Health and Mood

An American marital therapist, said: ‘Mornings are the perfect time to indulge because you’ll probably be in a rush, and the heart-pounding adrenaline of spontaneous sex will intensify the entire experience.’

'Mornings are the perfect time to indulge in a quickie, because you’ll probably be in a rush, and the heart-pounding adrenaline of spontaneous sex will intensify the entire experience,' she says.

And women worried their partner will not be willing to participate in an early morning session, may find it surprisingly easy to coax their men into a bout of passion.

A study at Queens University in Belfast found that having sex three times a week could actually halve the risk of heart attack or stroke.

A 2009 study found that having sex every day improves sperm quality and could boost the chances of getting pregnant. In tests of men with fertility problems, daily ejaculation for a week cut the amount of DNA damage seen in sperm samples.

Ejakulasi yang Mematikan

Beberapa pria diketahui langsung tewas setelah mengalami ejakulasi. Apa penyebabnya? Kematian mendadak (sudden death) dipicu oleh banyak sebab, salah satunya adalah peningkatan tekanan darah yang tidak bisa ditoleransi jantung. Orgasme seksual bisa memacu denyut nadi yang membuat tekanan darah naik dan meningkatkan risiko serangan jantung.

Sejarah mencatat beberapa tokoh besar yang tewas ketika bercinta, misalnya raja terakhir Bangsa Hun di Eropa. Raja yang disegani oleh bangsa-bangsa lain pada masa itu tewas pada abad ke-5 bukan karena berperang melainkan justru saat bercinta dengan permaisurinya.

Kematian mendadak saat menikmati orgasme seksual juga bisa disebabkan karena sesak napas. Kematian aktor laga David Carradine di Thailand pada tahun 2009 juga disebabkan oleh sesak napas karena tercekik ketika sedang menikmati masturbasi.

Diyakini David mengalami autoerotic asphyxiation, yakni penyimpangan seksual yang membuatnya hanya bisa menikmati orgasme jika aliran darah ke otak dihambat. Caranya seperti yang ia lakukan di saat-saat terakhir, yakni melilitkan dasi di leher sehingga tidak bisa bernapas.

What should I ask before dating a divorced person

Dating someone who’s recently divorced could be uncharted territory. Here are 3 questions to ask before you start dating:

1. How long has this person been separated, divorced, or living apart from his or her former spouse?

There’s no set formula to determine how long it takes to heal a broken heart, but be wary if the person you’re interested in has jumped right back into the dating pool. Breakups can be emotionally volatile, often irrational, and are certainly unpredictable. The person may truly believe that his or her past relationship is over, but strange things happen when newly single people start to date again.

The best way to know if it’s right is to take things slowly — for everyone’s sake.

2. Is this person currently working on any emotional issues from his or her past relationship, or have they already been resolved?

Talking about a former relationship is healthy — as long as it’s not an obsession. It’s important to your sense of happiness and stability that you not become someone’s therapist in this dating situation. But that doesn’t mean you can’t bring it up, either. Ask questions is also other suggestion If there are signs that’s he’s or her's not over it.

These aren’t exactly conversations that are appropriate topics for a first date, but if you are moving into a serious relationship, they are important to have at some point when you’re both comfortable with it.

3. How does this person relate to his or her former spouse?

Being cordial with the ex isn’t necessarily a bad thing, especially if both parties have been separated for some time and/or have children together. Is he or she civil and appropriate when talking about or interacting with the ex? If so, this is a good sign.

Crucial characteristics You both need for a lasting love

Too often love is blind, before you two saying yes to a deeper commitment,dating experts suggest seven match areas to consider:

1. Physical appearance
While physical appearance and attraction draw two people together at first, these aspects will affect the rest of their lives. If working out and staying fit is important to you, will it bum you out if your mate doesn’t share your quest for rock-hard abs?

2. Emotional maturity
Is this person emotionally mature and centered or still lugging around some trunk-sized baggage? How does your sweetheart relate to family and friends? Is he or she emotionally supportive or have control issues? Is your mate aware of his or her own issues and interested in addressing them?

3. Lifestyle choices
This includes career and social lives, common interests, leisure time activities and energy levels. Would she rather join the bowling league or the metropolitan symphony? Does he have lots of energy for activities with friends while she’d rather rest and chill out at home?

4. Financial compatibility
This is a hot bed for most couples. It includes income levels, savings goals and views on handling money. How do you each want to spend, save and invest? Is one person a spender while the other saves? Is one person financially responsible while the other plays catch-up with child support and bills?

5. Value structure
This area is often overlooked but has a tremendous impact on your life. It includes the big values: honesty, integrity, loyalty, views on family and children, religion and spirituality, life goals and the treatment and care for others. Does your mate follow through on promises made? Would you say this person is trustworthy? Will you always be there for each other in a pinch?

6. Marriage and intimacy
Everyone does not share the same idea of marriage. The big questions to address are: What do you and your mate expect from marriage? Is he or she looking for a soul mate? Do you both want close intimacy beyond the physical aspect, including with your friendships and in private communications with each other?

7. Intelligence
Having similar education levels increases your chances of sharing matching school and social experiences, intellectual interests and career goals. What topics do you and your honey like to talk about? Conversation limited to sports or shopping may get boring to someone who likes to ponder philosophy and bluster about business.

While you don’t have to match exactly in each area, look at the big picture and make sure you match closely enough in the important areas of your life to up your chances of finding a love that will go the distance.

Asap Rokok Bikin Bayi Lahir Prematur

Riset UK Center for Tobacco Control Studies di University of Nottingham menyimpulkan bahwa ibu hamil yang terkena paparan asap rokok dari orang lain (perokok pasif) memiliki risiko bayinya lahir prematur atau terlahir dengan masalah kesehatan.

Anak yang terlahir dari wanita yang merokok selama kehamilan memiliki peningkatan risiko bayi terlahir dalam keadaan tidak bernyawa, berat badan lahir kurang, dan masalah kesehatan lainnya.

University of Nottingham di Inggris menganalisa 19 studi yang menganalisa hubungan antara wanita hamil nonperokok tetapi sering terkena paparan asap rokok selama kehamilan. Datanya menunjukkan peningkatan risiko bayi lahir dalam keadaan tak bernyawa sebanyak 23 persen dan 13 persen peningkatan masalah pada kelahiran bayi.

Analisa yang muncul pada jurnal Pediatrics edisi April 2011 ini tak menemukan hubungan antara perokok pasif dengan keguguran sebelum usia kandungan mencapai 20 minggu aau kematian bayi dekat dengan waktu kelahiran.

Tips to Talk So Your Husband Listens You

Here are five things Women do to make sure you are heard by your husband. These strategies keep you from getting angry and feeling unimportant. It's also allowed you to bury your resentment and move forward with a rich and rewarding life that adds to your marriage:

1. 30 minute No Talking Rule: Give him thirty minutes to unwind before engaging him in conversation. It's not that big of a deal. He gets a chance to change out of work clothes and suddenly he's ready to talk.

2. Kids in Bed: Get the kids on a bedtime schedule. Some kids are upstairs by 7 or they don't get their cherished book read. This might sound harsh, but it actually gives you far more patience toward the end of the day when they start to melt down. Most importantly, it keeps you from melting down the moment your husband enters the door because you know there's an end in site.

3. Electronics Off: Turn off the computer/TV/whatever your fetish of fancy is by a certain time every night. Set a time. It gives you a chance to chat in the living room before making the trek upstairs. Usually you both can catch up on work, friends, kids and basic day-to-day of life.

4. Date Night: This is a cliché item, but so important. It gives you both a chance to talk about your dreams, not just who takes out the trash, who pays what bill, and what exactly got stuck in our son's ear last Tuesday.

5. Lower Your Expectations: The person that wife most want validation from is her husband. Unfortunately, with alternating schedules and very different job descriptions, this isn't always going to happen.

Don't Ask, Just Read His Signals!

Forget about asking your boyfriend how he feels about your future together because this kind of act just freaks guys out! Instead, learn to read the signals.

1. He wants to spend the holidays with you — wherever that takes him.
If he's willing to forgo his childhood traditions and chill at your parents' place — or skip family time altogether and take a trip with you — that means he's been thinking about creating new traditions and memories with you.

2. He invites you to his best friend's wedding — without being pushed.
Watching a close buddy walk down the aisle is a momentous occasion. And he wouldn't want to share that with just any girl, especially since there are bound to be plenty of "So, are you two next?" comments. If your man invited you (and he seems psyched to have you there), chances are he foresees the possibility of you two walking down the aisle in the future.

3. He drops the phrase "our kids".
Not to man-bash, but most guys have a hard time even thinking about starting a family until they meet the right girl. Saying something as seemingly minor as, "We wouldn't let our kids be that rude" means he's not only imagining it, he's expecting it to happen. And the thought doesn't send him running off to his man cave.

4. He's cried in front of you.
Whether he’s shed tears while watching The Notebook or because his dog died, he feels like he can be vulnerable around you. Taking off his macho nothing-can-hurt-me armor shows that he’s not afraid of being himself. If he doesn't try to hide it or act embarrassed, that could mean he’s envisioning going through a lot of ups and downs with you by his side. And he wants to be sure you’re cool with seeing his not-so-manly moments.

5. He's suddenly very responsible about finances.
Men tend to feel like they should be in a good place, money-wise before settling down with a woman. So if he seems more concerned with getting that promotion, contributing to his savings account, and opening a 401k, that's the good signals!

How to Get Over Your Ex

Do you ever find yourself checking your ex's Facebook page, or asking mutual friends what's new in your ex's life? You know-the indirect stalking strategy?

Letting go is one of the toughest elements of a breakup. No one likes saying "goodbye," or coming to grips with the fact that they have to move on, or that something didn't succeed.

Here are the reasons (and solutions to those reasons) why it's so hard to let go:

There Is Always Something There To Remind You

Once a person is gone, all you have left are pieces of their memory. This can range from a strand of hair to a ticket stub from a special date, to a song. If you're especially sentimental (weak-minded) like me, you've probably saved many reminders.

Solution: I know it's hard to throw stuff away, but, you can always stow away for later, when you're able to look back fondly at things without all those negative emotions. Put it all in a box under the bed. Go cold turkey on that special song, avoid the cologne or perfume they wore, etc. It's like breaking an unhealthy habit.

There's A Human Network

It's ok to hold on to friendships with an ex's friends and family, but it would behoove you to avoid seeing these friends for a while.

It's all too easy to ask a mutual friend what your ex is up to. I've found myself "hanging out" more with mutual friends after breakups just to check up on my ex. Not healthy.

Solution: Avoid mutual friends, as painful and rude as it seems. And if you see them, you should not ask about your ex-limit conversation subjects to future and present, not the past.

...and an Internet Network

My friend Jess has a terrible habit of continuing to follow her exes on Facebook after a breakup. This does nothing but infuriate her.

She'll inform me that her ex is "happier than he's ever been," or seeing an annoying girl she knows.

Solution: De-friend them on Facebook so you can't see what they are up to. Even if you think you can avoid looking, the temptation will be there. Be diligent about cutting off contact across the internet.

It's So Easy To Jump In So Fast

How many times have you had to end a relationship because you couldn't stop thinking about your ex? If you're not over him, and you can't have him, you might get into another relationship in order to replace him. Eventually, it's going to come back to haunt you because you'll eventually realize there are things you haven't dealt with.

Solution: You should wait until you're over your ex before getting into another serious relationship. But it's tough to wait. It's not like you want to give up a chance just because you're not over your ex. Also, sometimes you think you're over your ex even though you're not. Hey, I never said these solutions would be easy!

It's Tough To Stay Motivated

When you're down in the dumps over losing someone, it's easy to turn inward and avoid going out, meeting people, even working. But the more unmotivated you are, the easier it is to obsess over the person you're trying to let go of.

Solution: You literally have to force yourself to stay busy and distracted. Not only will you meet people and remain productive, but you will find that you're not thinking about that person too much...which will help you let go.

In order to turn away from someone mentally, spiritually and physically, it takes power, motivation, force, and faith. You can do it because, in most cases, you were happy without this person before you met them-so you can be happy again.

Do you agree with my list above, and what do you think is the toughest thing about letting go of someone. What are your solutions?

An Annual Check-Up for Your Relationship

Take time early in the New Year to set some new intentions for your relationship. Plan on sitting together for at least an hour to share your Relationship Review. Light a fire or plug in the lights and make yourselves comfortable. Use the following guide to help you along. Add your own questions and comments if you’d like, but keep the conversation moving in a positive direction by acknowledging all you have done well this year, and what you plan to accomplish in 2011.

Ask yourself the following questions or read them out loud to your partner. Answer each question out loud!

Number one: What is one positive memory of our relationship from 2010?
Number Two: What is one memory you would like to create in 2011?
Number Three: What is one thing you appreciated about our relationship last year ?
Number Four: In what ways do you want our relationship to grow in 2011?
Number Five: What is one way you will make that happen for us in 2011?

Your future is the most important thing that you will birth together as a couple. Create it with love and care and meaning. Protect it and let it be the most important thing in your lives. Starting today you can create a new future, together, with the power of your intention, and with love.

Should a Woman Ever Propose to a Man?

According to experts in this field, women “propose” to men every day – they just don’t call it that. “It’s called an ultimatum.”

“The reality is that women initiate probably over fifty percent of the ‘are we in this for the long haul’ conversations,” says Puhn. This gives the man the information he needs to know that when he asks you to marry him, he’s assured you’ll say yes.

A huge number of changes in relationships, for good and for bad, come about as a result of women initiating, poking, prodding, and setting time frames, she says. The issue isn’t necessarily what one says, but how they phrase it. Relationship discussions of any nature won’t be successful if phrased as “you’d better do it,” she says. Women who feel the need to issue proposals – of the mini or major variety – need to know before speaking what they are and aren’t comfortable with … and how to walk away if they don’t get the answer they need.

While this type of proposal isn’t “fun or exciting,” it’s the reality of many relationships today.

And, if a woman wants to get down on one knee and ultimately do the proposing, Puhn is fine with that – so long as she has the confidence and guts to “make that the story.”

The Surprising Scents that men and women like (and dislike)

Dr. Hirsch, who has been studying how smells affect moods and behavior for the past 25 years, says he was intrigued by the results of an early study. A group of male medical students were more responsive to the scent of cinnamon rolls than all the perfumes put together. Follow-up studies in the general population yielded similar results. Details from Dr. Hirsch's studies are below

Scents that appeal to men

The scent combination scientifically proven to be the most appealing to men is lavender and pumpkin pie. Doughnut with black licorice, as well as pumpkin pie with doughnut are also popular combinations.

Orange, black licorice, lily of the valley, buttered popcorn, vanilla, pumpkin pie, and lavender each were also appealing to men.

Scents that appeal to women

Women are most attracted to the following combinations, according to Dr. Hirsch's research: Good & Plenty and cucumber, Good & Plenty and pumpkin pie, lavender and pumpkin pie, and baby powder and chocolate. The scent of baby powder on its own is also appealing.

Unlike men, women are actually turned off by certain scents, such as cherry, barbecued meat, and ironically, men's colognes.

Self-expansion: key to a lasting marriage

A lasting marriage does not always signal a happy marriage. Plenty of miserable couples have stayed together for children, religion or other practical reasons.

But for many couples, it’s just not enough to stay together. They want a relationship that is meaningful and satisfying. In short, they want a sustainable marriage.

Dr. Aron and Gary W. Lewandowski Jr., a professor at Monmouth University in New Jersey, have studied how individuals use a relationship to accumulate knowledge and experiences, a process called “self-expansion.” Research shows that the more self-expansion people experience from their partner, the more committed and satisfied they are in the relationship.

To measure this, Dr. Lewandowski developed a series of questions for couples: How much has being with your partner resulted in your learning new things? How much has knowing your partner made you a better person?

“People have a fundamental motivation to improve the self and add to who they are as a person,” Dr. Lewandowski says. “If your partner is helping you become a better person, you become happier and more satisfied in the relationship.”

Seks Terbukti Bermanfaat Bagi Kesehatan!

Tahukah Anda, hubungan seks secara rutin dengan pasangan resmi memiliki manfaat mengejutkan yang tak pernah Anda bayangkan?

Berikut ini manfaat seks yang mungkin mengejutkan Anda:

1. Seks membebaskan stres
Manfaat terbesar dalam hubungan seks adalah menurunkan tekanan darah dan meredam stres.

2. Seks meningkatkan daya tahan
Para ilmuwan dari Wilkes University, Pennsylvania, AS, meng¬ambil contoh air liur 112 orang yang melakukan aktivitas seks seminggu atau dua minggu sekali. Hasilnya, mereka yang rutin melakukan aktivitas seks seminggu sekali atau lebih, memiliki antibodi lebih tinggi dibandingkan dengan yang hanya melakukannya dua minggu sekali.

3. Seks membakar kalori
Aktivitas seks selama 30 menit diyakini mampu membakar lebih dari 85 kalori. Sepertinya tidak terlalu banyak, tetapi jika dilakukan selama 42 jam (total), yang terbakar sekitar 3.570 kalori, lebih dari cukup untuk mengurangi berat badan sekitar setengah kilogram.

4. Seks meningkatkan kesehatan jantung
Para peneliti dari Inggris, seperti dipublikasikan dalam Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health, yang melakukan riset terhadap 914 pria selama 20 tahun dengan gangguan stroke, justru menemukan fakta lain. Aktivitas seks yang rutin setidaknya dua kali seminggu mampu menekan risiko serangan jantung fatal.

5. Seks meningkatkan kepercayaan diri
Tahukah Anda, satu dari 237 alasan orang melakukan aktivitas seks adalah untuk meningkatkan rasa percaya diri. Kenyataan itulah yang diungkap peneliti dari University of Texas, AS, seperti dipublikasikan dalam Archives of Sexual Behavior.

6. Seks meningkatkan keakraban
Peneliti dari Pittsburgh University dan North Carolina University, AS, mengevaluasi 59 wanita pra menoupouse sebelum dan sesudah melakukan foreplay (pemanasan) bersama suaminya yang diakhiri dengan pelukan. Mereka mengaku menemukan kedekatan, dan kadar hormon oksitosin juga meningkat tajam.

7. Seks mengurangi rasa sakit
Sebuah studi dalam Bulletin of Experimental Biology and Medicine menguji manfaat itu dengan melibatkan 48 sukarelawan untuk menghirup hormon oksitosin. Hasilnya, mereka menyatakan rasa sakit yang diderita berkurang setengahnya.

8. Seks mengurangi risiko kanker prostat
Ejakulasi yang rutin, terutama pada pria berusia 20-an tahun, kemungkinan dapat mengurangi risiko kanker prostat selama hidupnya, seperti dilaporkan peneliti asal Australia dalam British Journal of Urology International.

9. Seks memperkuat tulang panggul
Beberapa peneliti justru mengungkapkan bahwa aktivitas seks yang rutin bagi wanita ternyata bermanfaat hampir sama dengan latihan kegel. Aktivitas seks rutin bahkan memiliki manfaat lebih, yakni membantu memperkuat tulang pinggul, seperti latihan menahan kencing.

10. Seks membuat tidur berkualitas
Jika Anda ingin menikmati kualitas tidur yang baik, jangan pernah malas berhubungan seks sebelum tidur. Menurut penelitian, saat berhubungan seks, kadar hormon oksitosin akan terlepas bersamaan dengan orgasme. Hal ini akan membantu tidur Anda jadi lebih nyenyak. Cukup tidur berarti baik bagi kesehatan.