Most Common Reasons that Keep You from Settling Down

For many of us, falling in love — and deciding that yes, this time it’s meant to last forever — is not as easy as it seems. So, what keeps so many seemingly smart men and women from deciding that the person they’re with is The One?

1. Your list of “must-haves” for a romantic partner is unattainable
One of the biggest sticking points for people, says counseling psychologist Dr. Linda Young, is having a long list of characteristics that are considered essential for both a partner and the relationship. This lengthy list of essentials can be self-defeating, since it’s unlikely you’ll meet anyone who meets every requirement on that list.

2. You’re unwilling to compromise in relationships
Many of us don’t focus hard enough (or long enough) on what makes a relationship truly satisfying and sustainable over a lifetime. Being more forgiving of a partner’s faults or more flexible about another person’s annoying habits may be difficult, but the ability to compromise matters. Instead, many of us are looking to wherever the grass appears to be greener.

3. You’re afraid of intimacy
The other challenge for many may be in letting another person in. After spending much of our 20s and early 30s building a career, honoring the idea that it’s important to be successful and dating with the knowledge that most relationships will end, we build up a defense mechanism. When we finally decide we do want to settle down, we have to take down the walls we’ve built up. “One of the ways we protect ourselves is to learn how to not go all in, and then when you want to get married you have to figure out how to go all in,” says Young.

4. You pick partners that share your interests, but not your values and goals
Young admits she’s fascinated by online dating profiles, where many people list “important traits” that are actually things they themselves prefer to do: “Must like hiking. Must enjoy ska music. Must love long walks on the beach at sunset.” Young points out that “those things are not very important when it comes down to a long-term, satisfying relationship. The really important stuff is how your basic character traits and personality features complement each other, and where you are similar on the things that matter most to you. You really need to know what your values are before you can know if someone else shares them.”

5. You believe there’s only one soul mate out there waiting for you
“I think some people still have this fantasy notion that there’s going to be just one Mr. or Ms. Right. So when they have someone they’ve been with who displays many of these characteristics and they get along just fine together, these daters still think, ‘well, it doesn’t feel magical, like having a soul mate is supposed to feel’,” says Young. “It’s not always going to feel that way.”

Tips Untuk Si Pemalu dalam Percintaan

Jika Anda termasuk wanita pemalu, ada beberapa kiat yang bisa dilakukan untuk menjadikan Anda lebih percaya diri.

Berdiri Tegak
Tarik otot perut ke dalam saat Anda berdiri, sehingga dada terlihat membusung dan punggung tegak. Sikap tubuh seperti ini akan membuat Anda terlihat percaya diri. Sering-seringlah berlatih di depan kaca sampai posisi berdiri Anda tampak natural.

Jangan Menyilangkan Tangan
Cara berpose memperlihatkan kepribadian seseorang. Menyilangkan tangan saat duduk atau berbicara menandakan Anda orang yang defensif dan pemalu. Biasakanlah untuk menghindari sikap ini untuk meningkatkan kepcercayaan diri.

Lakukan Kontak Mata
Saat bertemu orang, pandang lurus ke lawan bicara dan fokuskan pada mata dan wajahnya. Tapi jangan terkesan bahwa Anda sedang membelalakkan mata. Tatap dengan mata yang ramah dan bersahabat.

Buatlah Gerakan Pertama
Berdirilah di dekat orang yang ingin Anda ajak bicara untuk memulai percakapan. Tatap matanya dan beri sedikit senyum. Jika dia membalas senyuman dan langsung menatap Anda, itu tandanya dia tidak keberatan diajak bicara.

Beri Pujian
Jika tak punya ide memulai obrolan, sebuah pujian mungkin bisa jadi solusinya. Namun jangan memuji terlalu berlebihan, beri pujian secara jujur berdasarkan apa yang ada di benak Anda.

What Internet Sex Study Reveals

Scientists have finally got a grip on our deepest sexual desires - by looking at what people type into online search. They have examined one billion online sex-related searches from around the world to find out what users click on when no one else is looking.

The findings have been published in a book called A Billion Wicked Thoughts, co-authored by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam. The pair hope it will prove there is no such thing as sexual deviance as almost nothing is seen as out of bounds.

The survey is so vast it is viewed by many experts as the most complete analysis of human sexual desires. Among the findings are the fact straight men prefer heavier women to thinner ones and find feet erotic.

They also enjoy a wide variety of erotic images, including bizarrely both elderly women and transsexuals. Meanwhile straight women enjoy reading about and watching romances between two men, but only when the focus is on emotion and not sex.

Gay men and straight men were found to have the same favourite body parts, which in order are chests, buttocks then feet. Surprisingly, search engine results from Dogpile, which provided the search data from Google, Yahoo! and Bing, said almost 80 per cent of internet searches were made up of 20 interests, ranging from youth, to cheerleaders.

Online Game and Relationship

These days, there are so many online games available in the internet and they're easy to download and play. Couples love to spend their time together playing online games, they are almost weather proof, no queuing, no traffic jam, most of them are free and couples can even make extra money from playing online games. These days, we can find huge selections of online games, free slots is one of the popular games that people love to play. Whatever the game you pick, make sure you are enjoying it while playing.

When you and your loved one feel bored with your routine works, besides reading, one type of hobbies then online game is one choice which many times becoming a great companion for those who are in above condition. Love birds can play from strategic games to online casinos, from mind exercising games to educational games. With so many bonus rating website available these days, it won’t be difficult to find no deposit bonus codes casino, this one is for couples who love to play this type of game. There is always a rating website for each type of online game in the internet.

Online game is easy to enjoy, what you need is simply a computer, internet connection, and then you can start playing. If you need to buy a game or pay some fee, you can use paypal or credit card. Those who play casinos, paypal casinos are other options for payment. Online games fit couples who have a busy lifestyle, those who have not much time for doing pleasure activities together. Couples, who love to do their activities together, have been proven to have a more stable relationship. It is never too late to start anything that can make your relationship last longer, so anytime you both are available, play some online games that excite you both.

Duchess Of Cambridge Stuns In Another Burton Gown

Royal newlywed Catherine, Duchess Of Cambridge made another dramatic fashion statement when she stepped out in a second Sarah Burton-designed gown for her reception in London on Friday night (29Apr11).

The former Kate Middleton wowed wedding onlookers and more than two billion TV viewers around the globe when she arrived for her wedding at Westminster Abbey in a stunning silk and lace dress designed by the Alexander MCQueen fashion house creative director - and she had a simpler version prepared for the after-ceremony party.

The Duchess left her new father-in-law Prince Charles' home in London after a break from the proceedings to attend the royal party at Buckingham Palace in the white satin strapless evening gown.

Prince William and his bride will spend their first night as man and wife at the palace before flying off on honeymoon.

Falling in love again with your other half!

There are many activities couples can do together to improve their relationship! From a very simple activity such as a good afternoon tea time, playing texas holdem to heavy ones such as rock climbing or sailing over seven seas! Spending good time with your other half is one crucial thing, every couple needs this moment. By spending time together you don’t take your other half for granted, no one is happy when you stop appreciating them. This is the quickest way to a happy and strong relationship, this is what couples need to live their love journeys!

When you and your loved one are constantly busy, suffer from lack of rest and unending stress, only seeing him or her when you wake up and before bed time, spending good quality time together is the fastest and the most effective way to get your relationship back, to get all the good time you two used to have, to get all the wild attraction you both used to feel when you first got married or dating. The problem people are facing these days when it comes to get your relationship back is people are too busy to look for complicated innovation to capture the feel!

Having good time isn’t complicated at all, it doesn’t require particular conditions, or special atmosphere, or privacy. Waiting for this "ideal moment" will almost takes forever! Expecting “ideal moment” will only lead couples to more cause for disappointment and stress. What couples need is to use any opportunity they get, just sit together, open a link and play few games together, if you both are excited, have good laugh together then it is a good moment. Without you both realizing it, this small and unplanned activity is actually helping you to fall in love again with your other half!

Best Icebreakers Tips

You know "the moment" when you spot someone across a crowded room, bus, or produce section. You’d love to meet — but what the heck can you say to a complete stranger that won’t come off as dorky or desperate? Try one of these real-world icebreakers that singles swear by. Why? Because these lines earned them plenty of dates!

Flirt with a fly-by
“My best icebreaking technique is what I call the ‘fly-by.’ It’s where you make witty comments of a relevant nature as you walk by the person who interests you. For example.

Try the direct approach
“I have approached people in grocery stores, on the street, pretty much anywhere, and the best conversation starter I’ve found is just to say what I’m thinking. I’ll say something like, ‘Hi. My name is Josh, and I just wanted to let you know I find you incredibly attractive.’

Take a survey
“Sometimes I pretend I’m doing a survey for research purposes. People just assume it’s for a school or work project. My best ‘survey’ approach is to ask guys to tell me what they think the ratio in this particular spot is of those who are out to actually meet someone to date versus those who are just out to have a good time with their friends. It allows you to go up to anyone and just start talking…both men and women!

Play some games
“My friends and I like to play the typical old-school games while we’re out — pool, darts, foosball, etc. — and you can use these games as an excuse to talk to whatever cutie you’ve been eyeing. For example, I walk up to a person I find attractive and say something like, ‘Hey, my friends and I are playing doubles at the pool table, but my partner left.

Lay on the flattery
“One of the best ways to meet men is to pay them a compliment. Not just by saying ‘nice tie’ or whatever, but something really flattering. For example, one time on the way to the ladies room at a restaurant where I was having dinner alone, I noticed a very well-dressed man. On the way back I stopped at his table and said, ‘You are simply the best-dressed man I have seen in a very long time’

Ask a question
“If I’m going to try to chat someone up, I make sure that my opening line invites a conversation. So if I see a woman picking up some curry sauce at Trader Joe’s, I’ll say, ‘Excuse me, I’ve always seen that sauce and wondered about it. How can you use it? Is it very spicy?’

A little humor and humility can’t hurt
“I like to use what I call the ‘no-line’ pick-up line. I mosey over and say something innocent, like: ‘Excuse me for interrupting; I can see you’re busy reading (studying, working, whatever). You caught my attention, so I thought I would risk public humiliation by introducing myself.’

Kondom Bisa Mempertahankan Ereksi Lebih Lama

Banyak yang bilang berhubungan seks dengan kondom membuatnya menjadi tidak nyaman. Padahal menggunakan kondom bisa membuat pasangan menjadi rileks dan mempertahankan ereksi lebih lama.

Kondom selama ini lebih dikenal sebagai salah satu alat yang bisa digunakan untuk mencegah penyakit infeksi menular seksual seperti herpes, HIV dan juga HPV, serta sebagai alat kontrasepsi untuk mencegah kehamilan yang tidak diinginkan.

"Tapi kondom juga bisa membantu seorang laki-laki mempertahankan ereksinya lebih lama," ujar Leslie M. Kantor selaku direktur Planned Parenthood Federation of America, seperti dikutip dari ABCNews.

Kantor mengungkapkan bahwa laki-laki yang menggunakan kondom akan membuat pasangannya merasa lebih rileks dan santai sehingga bisa mencapai orgasme. Hal ini karena mereka tahu dengan menggunakan kondom bisa mengurangi risiko kehamilan atau tertular penyakit infeksi menular seksual, dengan begitu rasa khawatir dan juga cemas akan berkurang.

Dating Lines — Decoded!

It’s no secret that the language of love isn’t always the most, well, direct. That’s why so many single people spend hours analyzing emails from dates trying to figure out if “I’m busy at work” is a brush-off, or wondering whether that invitation of “I’ll make dinner for you” indicates a desire to share a whole lot more than a favorite garlic chicken recipe. How can you suss out what someone’s really trying to say? To help you out, we got a bevy of dating experts to decode eight common lines so you’ll spend less time scratching your head and more time communicating.

Line #1: “I’d love to stay out, but I have to get up really early tomorrow.”
What it means: “Sorry, you just aren’t floating my boat.”
Of course, if it’s 2 a.m. or your date follows up with, “But let’s get together soon — maybe this weekend?” the fact that he or she want to end the date is no big deal. But if the night is young or your date mentions an aversion to staying out late in the middle of, say, appetizers, that’s not a good sign.

Line #2: “I had such a good time with you.”
What it means: “Wow, you’re actually fun and different from all the other guys/girls!”
This sentence might sound generic, but try saying it out loud. It sounds far more intense than a mere “I had a nice night,” doesn’t it?

Line #3: “I’m just not ready for a relationship.”
What it means: “I’m just not in love with you.”
This means ‘I don’t love you, so if that’s what you want, we should break up. Don’t be fooled — when this person does meet someone who has that spark, he or she will indeed be ready for a relationship.

Line #4: “I’d love to meet up, but I’m just really busy with work right now.”
What it means: “I’m trying to think of a really nice way to blow you off.”
Of course, this person could very well have a full schedule that week. But if he or she doesn’t offer any alternative dates to hang out, what you’re really being told is that this person would rather work than hang out with you.

Line #5: “So, gotten any funny emails on Match.com lately?”
What it means: “Are you interested in seeing each other exclusively?”
Let’s face it, it’s intimidating to ask: “So, are you seeing anyone else?” And with online dating, there’s a sneakier way to put out feelers: by asking a question that reveals whether someone’s been checking his or her Match.com account for new suitors.

Line #6: “So, want to meet for coffee?”
What it means: “Want to meet for a coffee and then have dinner if we like each other?”
It’s always smart to schedule a short, easy-to-end date when you’re first meeting a new person. Committing to dinner with someone new can seem like too much for a person who doesn’t want to get stuck at a table for hours if things aren’t clicking.

Line #7: “I’m meeting my friends — want to come?”
What it means: “I really like you and want to know if you get along with my pals.”
It may sound like a casual invite, but what your date is saying is that he or she is totally comfortable being seen with you as a couple — and is interested in how you’ll relate to his or her closest comrades. Meeting the friends is an approval thing.

Line #8: “Why don’t you come over and I’ll cook for you?”
What it means: “Ready to see whether you want to take things to the next level?”
Cooking for a person is a show of intimacy in a couple of ways. The person is really inviting you into his or her life.

Survey: Beda Fantasi pada Laki-laki dan Perempuan saat masturbasi

Perbedaan fantasi yang dibayangkan laki-laki dan perempuan saat melakukan masturbasi. Meski ada kesamaan pada jenis fantasi yang paling populer dan yang paling jarang dibayangkan, namun persentase masing-masing fantasi berbeda pada kedua jenis kelamin.

Perbedaan itu terungkap dalam sebuah riset yang dilakukan oleh 2 ilmuwan Amerika Serikat, William H Masters dan Virginia E Johnson:

Fantasi Pria

Fantasi yang paling banyak dibayangkan laki-laki saat melakukan masturbasi adalah sebagai berikut:

1. Fantasi erotik dengan sembarang perempuan (86 persen)
2. Fantasi hubungan intim dengan sembarang perempuan (71 persen)
3. Membayangkan adegan erotik dengan orang yang berbeda-beda (49 persen)
4. Mengingat-ingat adegan-adegan seksual dalam film erotik (28 persen)
5. Mengingat-ingat gambar-gambar erotik dalam buku atau majalah (50 persen)
6. Mengingat-ingat teman perempuan atau rekan kerja yang seksi (25 persen).

Fantasi Wanita

Fantasi yang paling banyak dibayangkan perempuan saat melakukan masturbasi:

1. Fantasi erotik dengan sembarang laki-laki (63 persen)
2. Fantasi hubungan intim dengan sembarang laki-laki (51 persen)
3. Membayangkan adegan erotik dengan orang yang berbeda-beda (31 persen)
4. Mengingat-ingat adegan-adegan seksual dalam film erotik (20 persen)
5. Mengingat-ingat gambar-gambar erotik dalam buku atau majalah (25 persen)
6. Mengingat-ingat teman atau rekan kerja yang tampan (15 persen).