What should I ask before dating a divorced person

dating a divorced personDating someone who’s recently divorced could be uncharted territory. Here are 3 questions to ask before you start dating:

1. How long has this person been separated, divorced, or living apart from his or her former spouse?

There’s no set formula to determine how long it takes to heal a broken heart, but be wary if the person you’re interested in has jumped right back into the dating pool. Breakups can be emotionally volatile, often irrational, and are certainly unpredictable. The person may truly believe that his or her past relationship is over, but strange things happen when newly single people start to date again.

The best way to know if it’s right is to take things slowly — for everyone’s sake.

2. Is this person currently working on any emotional issues from his or her past relationship, or have they already been resolved?

Talking about a former relationship is healthy — as long as it’s not an obsession. It’s important to your sense of happiness and stability that you not become someone’s therapist in this dating situation. But that doesn’t mean you can’t bring it up, either. Ask questions is also other suggestion If there are signs that’s he’s or her's not over it.

These aren’t exactly conversations that are appropriate topics for a first date, but if you are moving into a serious relationship, they are important to have at some point when you’re both comfortable with it.

3. How does this person relate to his or her former spouse?

Being cordial with the ex isn’t necessarily a bad thing, especially if both parties have been separated for some time and/or have children together. Is he or she civil and appropriate when talking about or interacting with the ex? If so, this is a good sign.

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